It's difficult for me to understand the "fashion" mom. They stay home just like me and even though they aren't wearing elastic wasted mom jeans that go up to their nipples or white Reebok sneakers with their hair pulled back in a scrunchy, they still have a uniform; yoga pants with North Face jacket and platinum blond hair. Frankly, I'm too cheap to go out and buy that uniform. I also feel guilty whenever I buy something for myself especially when jeans go with everything and I have plenty of hole-free, will work for another year T-shirts.
On a different note, I am going to refrain from falling into the SAHM-wear trap to preserve my personal identity. When I was working there were all sorts of things that defined me, not just my clothing. Now that I'm struggling to find my new identity as a SAHM, I think it's important that I maintain my own sense of fashion, no matter how outdated, boring or odd. I do believe what you wear is a reflection of who you are and I don't think choosing to wear older clothing makes me appear less "in love" with myself or less mindful of how people perceive me. I'm clean, I don't think I smell and most of the time my clothing matches. I would hope that people can see past all the superficial stuff and see a mom whose priority is her family, friends and neighbors.